In life, our point of focus becomes our reality. We get more of what we expect and inadvertently, we become creators of our destiny. How do we create our own destinies? Simple really. What we think about most of the time and how we see the world, will affect our belief system; our beliefs about ourselves and the world around us in turn influences our actions and how we relate to the world around us.
It is OUR ACTIONS which then have repercussions and produce the results that define our lives. If we expect lack, problems, misfortune, we will act (whether consciously or subconsciously) in a manner that will make lack, problems and misfortune manifest in our lives; conversely, if our focus is on success, opportunities and a perpetual hope that things will get better, we will again (consciously or subconsciously) act in a way that will attract the people, resources and opportunities that will make success and achievement manifest in our lives. Focusing on the challenges will only paralyze us thus making it infinitely more difficult to raise ourselves out of our problems; focusing on opportunities empower us to find creative avenues around our challenges and to accomplish that which we seek.
Yes challenges will occur and problems will arise and I am not by any means ignoring that fact. What I am saying that in spite of those challenges, we can still choose to make empowering decisions as opposed to toxic ones and by so doing change the eventual outcomes that manifest in our lives. It is for this simple fact that two people can both come from disadvantaged backgrounds, and face identical challenges of poverty.
Yet by making very different decisions in spite of those challenges one person will create their own opportunities and rise out of poverty while the other will continue to complain, make excuses, do nothing constructive about it and so remain in poverty. It’s not the facts that face us that are important; it’s what we choose to do in spite of those facts that make all the difference.
Yet, many find it difficult to come to terms with the fact that they are indeed the creators of their own destinies – perhaps this could be because admitting this fact would mean that if things are not going great in their lives, then they would have to do something serious about it; and often times doing something to turn our lives around means work.
We seem to find it far easier to blame someone else or something else for our misfortunes and missed opportunities because it somehow assuages our conscience and makes it easier to abdicate responsibility. By doing this we do not feel directly responsible for our predicament, which invariably means that we don’t feel the urgent need to get up and do something about it, ourselves.
We wait and expect “someone” to come along and fix it or wait for the “right opportunity” to show up. As a result many live lives of quiet desperation, stuck in their quandary, remaining victims of circumstance; while the few that choose to get up, take charge of their lives and do something about it eventually break free and achieve success.
There are few guarantees in life, one of them is this – each one of us holds the key to his or her own destiny, in spite the challenges the befall us. We choose how we want our lives to turn out. For our circumstances to change, for us to achieve our dreams and for us to turn our lives around, we must take intentional action. We will have to take responsibility and do something about it. Circumstances seldom change on their own; often times they get worse if left unchecked.
By shifting our focus from the problems and challenges in our lives to seeking ways of creating our own opportunities that will raise us above challenges is the only key to success. As tough as life can be, complaining, blaming and excuses will not make things any less easier. Success must always be earned and as clichéd as it sounds, it is those who choose to challenge their challenges, instead of being challenged by it that succeed. It may take time, but they eventually overcome. As the saying goes, “Never wish it were easier. Wish you were better. Then get better.” .