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The Art of Self Motivation: 7 Ways to Keep the Positive Energies Flowing

A Marine of the United States Marine Corps run...

A Marine of the United States Marine Corps runs through a creek. Original caption: “Lance Cpl. Anthony M. Madonia emerges from the water during the swimming portion of the triathlon. Marines and Sailors of Marine Security Company and the Naval Support Facility in Thurmont, Md., participated in the Catoctin Mountain Triathlon, July 20.” (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

In life, our point of focus becomes our reality. We get more of what we expect and inadvertently, we become creators of our destiny. How do we create our own destinies? Simple really. What we think about most of the time and how we see the world, will affect our belief system; our beliefs about ourselves and the world around us in turn influences our actions and how we relate to the world around us.

It is OUR ACTIONS which then have repercussions and produce the results that define our lives. If we expect lack, problems, misfortune, we will act (whether consciously or subconsciously) in a manner that will make lack, problems and misfortune manifest in our lives; conversely, if our focus is on success, opportunities and a perpetual hope that things will get better, we will again (consciously or subconsciously) act in a way that will attract the people, resources and opportunities that will make success and achievement manifest in our lives. Focusing on the challenges will only paralyze us thus making it infinitely more difficult to raise ourselves out of our problems; focusing on opportunities empower us to find creative avenues around our challenges and to accomplish that which we seek.

Yes challenges will occur and problems will arise and I am not by any means ignoring that fact. What I am saying that in spite of those challenges, we can still choose to make empowering decisions as opposed to toxic ones and by so doing change the eventual outcomes that manifest in our lives. It is for this simple fact that two people can both come from disadvantaged backgrounds, and face identical challenges of poverty.

Yet by making very different decisions in spite of those challenges one person will create their own opportunities and rise out of poverty while the other will continue to complain, make excuses, do nothing constructive about it and so remain in poverty. It’s not the facts that face us that are important; it’s what we choose to do in spite of those facts that make all the difference.

Yet, many find it difficult to come to terms with the fact that they are indeed the creators of their own destinies – perhaps this could be because admitting this fact would mean that if things are not going great in their lives, then they would have to do something serious about it; and often times doing something to turn our lives around means work.

We seem to find it far easier to blame someone else or something else for our misfortunes and missed opportunities because it somehow assuages our conscience and makes it easier to abdicate responsibility. By doing this we do not feel directly responsible for our predicament, which invariably means that we don’t feel the urgent need to get up and do something about it, ourselves.

We wait and expect “someone” to come along and fix it or wait for the “right opportunity” to show up. As a result many live lives of quiet desperation, stuck in their quandary, remaining victims of circumstance; while the few that choose to get up, take charge of their lives and do something about it eventually break free and achieve success.

There are few guarantees in life, one of them is this – each one of us holds the key to his or her own destiny, in spite the challenges the befall us. We choose how we want our lives to turn out. For our circumstances to change, for us to achieve our dreams and for us to turn our lives around, we must take intentional action. We will have to take responsibility and do something about it. Circumstances seldom change on their own; often times they get worse if left unchecked.

By shifting our focus from the problems and challenges in our lives to seeking ways of creating our own opportunities that will raise us above challenges is the only key to success. As tough as life can be, complaining, blaming and excuses will not make things any less easier. Success must always be earned and as clichéd as it sounds, it is those who choose to challenge their challenges, instead of being challenged by it that succeed. It may take time, but they eventually overcome. As the saying goes, “Never wish it were easier. Wish you were better. Then get better.” .


How to Achieve Better Self-Control

It takes self-control in order to reach your goals. You increase it the same way you beef up your self-confidence, by mastering smaller steps one at a time, and building up trust in yourself.

Step One: Making the Commitment

You’ll find your goals are easier to reach once you can focus on them in your mind. What exactly do you want to do? What – exactly – are the steps needed to take you there?

It’s easy to say you want to live a healthier life, but you won’t accomplish anything by trying to cover everything at once. Look at your current abilities, and what you’re able to tackle right now. Using your strengths, how can reach your overall goal? Eating more Vegetables? Cutting down on smoking? Exercising with friends?

Pin down your goal and focus your efforts on taking manageable steps in that direction.

Step Two: Put it in Writing

Making a commitment is a lot like making a map. It’s easier to follow your decisions when you’ve laid them down on paper.

When you can see your plan, when you have a chance to check items off one by one, you feel powerful and in control of your situation. Writing things down strengthens you focus, and gives you a reminder of what you have to work on.

Step Three: Kick into Action

Start once you make your commitment. If you wait for the next day, or the next week, or after the holidays, etc you will keep coming up with reasons to avoid starting at all. Worse, you’ll find reasons to stop midstream.

If you find yourself tempted, it may be a sign that your baby steps aren’t small enough. “Never drinking soda pop ever again” may work for someone who drinks a very small amount, but for someone who lives on carbonation, it’s not realistic.

Remember, self-confident people honor their abilities and know their limitations. They don’t set themselves up for fairly. Be good to your spirit by setting goals that won’t drag you off-course.

Step Four: Let the Daydreams Begin

Motivation fuels your efforts. Daydreams fuel your motivation.

Take some time today to imagine your success. See yourself drinking bottled water, or chewing on gum instead of taking a drag. Envision your thinner thighs or sparkling white teeth. Most importantly, see yourself smiling.

While visualizing the life you want to lead is a powerful tool in building confidence, you can also use visualization techniques to fight off negative thinking.

The next time stresses come to call, close your eyes for a moment and breathe deeply. Imagine yourself walking into a blooming garden. Stop in front of a rose bush, littered with vibrant blooms and wilting ones. Put on your garden gloves, and pick up your shears, then stop to smell the roses. With every sniff of a vibrant bloom, here the whispering positive messages in your mind. “You can do this.” “You will reach your goals.” “You deserve your success.”

The wilted blooms have an acrid smell, and whisper negative comments. Snip them off the bush before they have their whole say, but them in your basket and once back in your office, throw them away.

Step Five: Celebrate Your Success

However little they may be, make a display when your plans reach fruition. It takes focus, commitment, and effort to make even the smallest baby step turn out. Take a moment to feel proud of yourself and realize that improving your life isn’t so tough.

You may even want to reward yourself when you reach certain milestones, but be careful. You want to make progress for yourself, not for the latest gadget or a new pair of shoes.

Sticking to your goals isn’t so much about willpower as it is making your choices realistic, and aligning your actions with your overall purpose. Be forgiving, hopefully, and celebrate your successes. Soon you’ll be living the life that you want, and you’ll have the trust that you need to meet future obstacles head on.